So, I’ve been thinking about getting this story out for a
long time now and I’ve been putting it off and putting it off cause I really
didn’t want to deal with it. But I just feel like God’s been laying on my heart
to do it and get this out. I don’t know if it’s for me or for someone else who
might read it. I don’t know, but I’m doing it. And if you are a family member
or a close friend of mine you might not want to read this because it’s going to
make you cry. So just warning everyone.
Ok. So, I want to share about the scariest worst night of my
life. How listening to God above all others changed my life. The power of
prayer and recognizing and appreciating the miracles that God gives us instead
of getting caught up on the the miracles that aren’t happening for us.
Alright, so most people might think that the worst night of
my life was the night I found out that Chris had died, but it actually isn’t.
The worst night of my life is the night Chris almost died.
Chris had struggled with addiction for a couple of years. Then
in February of 2020 he went into a rehab facility here in Charleston. He did
amazing. He was doing the 12-step program. Dedicated his life to the Lord.
Things just clicked for him there. We were all very hopeful. Cautious but
hopeful. He was there for 4 months. He comes home to live with me again. And I
had set up boundaries, and rules, and schedules in place of course as you do
when you’re dealing with recovery. We were figuring out what the next steps are
for him and us.
About a week passed and some drama started going down one day.
I’m not going to get into the whole story but I didn’t involve me, so I wasn’t
really sure what was happening, what was being said, by whom, but I was being
told by multiple people from the rehab facility that he was using again and I
shouldn’t let him in my house. Now I’ve kicked Chris out of the house several
times before because of circumstances involving his addiction so I knew the
deal. But something about this time that felt strange. I just wasn’t
comfortable with the situation. I needed to see him and hear his story in
person from him. Even if I knew it was going to be a bunch of crap there was
still something about this day that felt different. I was torn for some reason
and I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling this way.
So, I prayed and prayed and prayed some more. Pretty much
just in constant communication with God. And listening intently. When you’re
listening to God it’s not with your ears it’s with your soul. I just felt Him
telling me to let Chris come home. That I needed to be with Chris tonight. So,
I did. I went against what professionals told me, what all the books will tell
you to do, and what I had done in past. I let him come home.
He gets home, and I can already kind of tell he’s been
using. But he’s denying it like always, so I just go about my evening and keep
an eye on him. Like alright God you told me to let him back in the house. I’m
going with it. I’m following You Lord.
A couple of hours go by and Chris goes up stairs to the
bathroom. I’m sitting on the couch about to eat some cereal when I hear a loud
thud like something heavy has been dropped. I think there’s nothing in the
bathroom that big that could make that noise. Crap, what if he fell? So, I rush
upstairs and call his name, “Chris?” no answer. “Chris are you ok?” still no
answer. I check the door and it’s locked of course. Panic creeps in because I
know what’s happened.
So, after a couple of tries I bust in the door. There he was slumped over on the floor against
the bathtub. Unconscious. Paraphernalia laying on the floor and on the counter.
He had overdosed. I rolled him over and laid him on his back to check to see if
he was breathing. He wasn’t. He was going pale, lips turning blue, whole thing.
I’m now YELLING at him to WAKE UP, OPEN YOUR EYES, BREATH! I jump up and get
the Narcan which I kept in the bathroom closet, so it’d be handy in case of
ever such an event. I ripped open the box and looked at the directions. Thank
God for pictures because there was no way I was going to read tiny little
detailed print in an emergency. So, I rolled him over on his side, lifted his
head to open his air way and used one of the Narcan cartridge things. It was a
nasal spray. And I waited. I was crying so hard. I’ve never cried so hard in my
life. He took one gasp for breath and that was all. Nothing more. He still
wasn’t breathing. I was screaming for him to just breath. JUST BREATH PLEASE! I
was begging God with all I had to let him breath. But he wasn’t. So, I gave him
the second dose of Narcan. And I prayed for God to make him breath. And he
gasped for breath. And then another big one. Trying to get air. It sounded awful
and difficult. He was struggling but he was breathing. I of course was just
balling my eyes out. I rolled him back onto his back. He was slowly gasping for
air. Every breath sounded like a struggle. Now, Chris has asthma, so I was
afraid that this was his asthma now kicking in and he doesn’t have his
albuterol inhaler. Like great the Narcan worked but his asthma is now the
problem and there’s nothing I can do about it because we don’t have an inhaler and
he’s unconscious.
I knew I needed to call 911 but I had no idea where his
phone was, and my phone was downstairs. So, I ran downstairs, grabbed my phone
and started dialing 911 as I ran back up the stairs. I was squatting over him,
placed the phone on the ledge of the bathtub while it rang. I had it on speaker
phone. It rang so many times. I just kept talking to Chris telling him to keep
breathing, keep breathing. He was sweating so much and was burning up. And I
was rubbing his face hoping he would open his eyes. Finally, the 911 dispatch
lady picked up. I gave her my address and told her what was happening. Told her
that I gave him two doses of Narcan and he’s still not really breathing well. So,
she had me give him mouth to mouth to just get him a few breaths, help open
things up, something. I don’t really know. But it worked. I gave him 2 breaths
and that did the trick. He started breathing steadier and smoothly.
She told me that the ambulance was on its way. And
thankfully I live like 2 miles away from the EMS station. She had me go back
down stairs and unlock the door and I put Greta up in the guestroom, so she
wouldn’t get in the way. Then I ran back upstairs. Chris was still breathing
well. And I was on my knees straddling him, still on the phone with 911, and I
was rubbing his face, wiping all the sweat away. And he started to open his
eyes. So, I started talking to him. He was still unconscious. Had no idea what
was going on. But he opened his eyes. So, I told him “Hey”. And just kept
telling him he was ok. “You’re ok. You’re ok.” And he was looking around just
in a complete daze. It really did look like a fish out of water. Eyes are open,
mouth is open, trying to breath but there was just nothing. Just a blank look
on his face. The EMT’s get there. Come inside and I yell that we’re upstairs.
They come upstairs and into the bathroom and I get out of their way. There were
2 or 3 EMT’s I can’t remember. But there were 2 police officers. So, while the
EMT’s dealt with Chris I sat on the bed and talked to the police. Told them
what happened and answered all their questions. The EMT’s got Chris sitting up
and then standing. Got him to walk downstairs and sit on the couch. And the
police and I went in the bathroom. They took the drugs and paraphernalia and
they tested it right there on my bathroom counter to see what it was. I knew
what it was, but they were really testing to see if there was fentanyl in it.
And it did. He didn’t even take the full dose. That’s how instant, extreme, and
violent fentanyl is. The police told me I would need to deep clean the whole
bathroom and I would need to wear gloves because fentanyl can be absorbed
through the skin. So, you don’t want to touch anything! One of the police
officers was a woman and she pulled out a pair of latex gloves and gave them to
me.
We went downstairs, and Chris was sitting on the couch with
the EMT’s asking him his name, age, the day of the week, the year, who the
president was. They told us that because Narcan has a half life they would
either have to wait with us there at the house for like 45 mins to make sure
once the Narcan wore off he didn’t go back into an overdose. Or we could go to
the hospital. Chris looked up at me and said, “it’s up to you. I’ll do whatever
you want me to do” So I said we’re going to the hospital. I walked him out to
the ambulance. Then got my purse and got in my car and followed them to the
hospital. We were only there maybe 45 minutes then went home. The next day his
sister came over from California for two weeks and we all got together and
figured out some next steps and got Chris into an Oxford house.
Mainly I was just so relieved that I had let Chris come home
that night. What if he had been somewhere else? I just knew it was our miracle.
God told me to bring him into the house that night and watch him. It wasn’t
until a few days later when his mom made a comment that it was a miracle that I
was in the house and heard him fall. I could have been outside with Greta and
never heard him fall! It was a miracle. Instead of finding Chris unconscious I could
have found him dead. It was a month later that Chris overdosed and passed away.
We all felt so blessed that we had gotten another month with him. His sister
had come down from California and spent two whole weeks with him.
So often we can get caught up on the miracles we don’t get
that we can forget to see and recognize and be thankful for the ones that we do
get. Chris could have died that night if
I hadn’t listened to God and followed what I believed He was telling me. I’m
not patting myself on the back by any means. This is all Gods blessings! He
gave us another chance and more time with Chris. And I will always be eternally
grateful and blessed for that opportunity that God gave us. How could I not? I
got to see him clean and happy and healthy. We got to see him as his old self
again. His true self. It wasn’t the strung-out addict that I had to deal with
for so long. It was him. It was Chris again. And I feel blessed beyond measure
to have that time and those moments as my last with him. And it was all because
of God. And I thank Him all the time for the wonders that He gives to us.
Welp, that is my story of the worst night of my life and how
God worked a miracle in my life. I hope that anyone that reads this and or hears
my story will remember to always keep praying. Keep listening for God and pay
attention because you never know what miracle He might be working in your life.
Be thankful because we are all so blessed.